For the last month and a half we've bolted down a theme(casual picnic) I found my dress, we had a consultation with a florist, my mom and I have begun collecting vintage plates for the reception, we have a venue and maybe a cake baker, all the superficial things are coming along nicely but the VOWS, uh. About two weeks ago I began to research possible vows scanning website after website and feeling kind of frustrated with it all. I personally found most of them to be either too mushy, too depressing, too religious, and full of things I simply wouldn't say!
We asked Pam if she could show us any sample vows and that's when she suggested we write our own. Early on I had decided that writing our own vows was something special, something I wanted but wasn't (and I'm still not) sure If I can do. One of my fears is that I wont be able to say them in front of our families, that I'll be too overcome with emotion to get the words out. It's silly but writing your own vows seems like such a private thing that I don't know if I can be that personal in front of everyone! Pam said she could provide a type of cheat sheet so that it would be easier to create our own vows but have them in a similar format so that's an option as well.
Though I'm still undecided I found the following helpful.
On Writing your own vows:
12 tips on writing your own wedding vows
How To: write your own wedding vows
Non-traditional/Traditional Wedding Vows:
Wedding Vows: Nondenominational
Celtic Wedding Vows
" vow you the first cut of my meat, the first sip of my wine,( We both found this one funny!)
from this day it shall only your name I cry out in the night
and into your eyes that I smile each morning;
I shall be a shield for you back as you are for mine,
no shall a grievous word be spoken about us,
for our marriage is sacred between us and no stranger shall hear my grievance.
Above and beyond this, I will cherish and honor you through this life
and into the next. "
"When I looked at you, my life made sense. Even the bad things made sense. They were necessary to make you possible."
-Jonathon Safran Foer
I'm so happy to have a long, long time to brainstorm and hopefully get some ideas from people we know and our officiant Pam on what we want for our wedding.